Have you ever heard these statements from your kids?
It doesn’t matter how old our kids are, toddlers to teenagers, kids talk back, and backtalk is a nightmare for parents.
What can we do to help stop the backtalk?
The first thing we can do is try and understand why kids talk back. If we can understand why our kids are acting the way they are, we can better understand what we need to do to help.
Some of the most common reasons for back talk are…
- Kids test our limits. They are looking to get a reaction out of us. They are exerting power and looking to see how we will respond.
- Kids are looking to have control over their lives. As parents, if we are always demanding, and constantly ordering our kids around, we take away their personal power and independence. They talk back to try and regain some of that control.
- Kids are trying to exert their independence. It doesn’t matter our children’s age, they are always seeking independence.
- Kids feel helpless, SO, the only way they feel they can fight back, is by talking back. They know they are dependent on us as parents and that we make the rules. The helpless feeling leads them to try to negotiate, talk back, argue, slam doors, roll their eyes and stomp off.